Uncomfortable


117I’ve realized how uncomfortable I get when people talk about other people, be it their clothes, their hair, and especially their personal business. I am not sure when it started, or if that feeling of being uncomfortable was always there lying dormant some place. Lately I’ve noticed it more and more. Now, it’s not to say that some things aren’t funny but I think something about laughing at other’s pain, or at their expense is what makes me uncomfortable. Maybe it’s the fact that I realize that if it were me, people would be laughing at me too.

I think we don’t realize each other’s pain. If we did we wouldn’t be laughing right. I see pictures of people at their lowest, the clothes they wear, or the mistakes they’ve made on Facebook and twitter and I scroll passed it fast, so as not to be an accessory or guilty by association.

Everyone doesn’t have what we have. We must first be conscious of that. We have got to understand that some people don’t have jobs or clothes, things have happened in their lives to were loss and lack have permeated their total existence; and we laugh because their clothes are too tight, too small, or too something. We offer these people neither sympathy nor understanding. Maybe it’s because we’ve never been there so it’s a bit hard to understand loss in that particular area. But you have lacked or needed something, haven’t you?

On the other spectrum, to see others expose when some people wear on purpose clothing that are revealing, tacky, or whatever, makes me uncomfortable as well. Not because the person is revealing too much of their assets or what have you, but the person who calls it into attention make me uncomfortable because I’m not sure if they still don’t see the pain of that person.

We go into excessive situations when we are indeed in lack, no father in the home, mother not there to teach us how to be a lady, or whatever the case may be. We expose them without offering them something in exchange; something positive to their negative. I wonder if it would be okay when I see some young girl with her shorts up her spine and a low cut shirt to say “You have the most amazing eyes” if she would focus more on them the next time she decided what to wear.

Well, at least if we decide to say nothing, maybe we should say nothing on Facebook or twitter too. I don’t know, I haven’t tried it but I think I will, next time.

 

 

Everything Ain’t Always, Okay


I feel like I can’t talk

I just got it

but

I had no one to tell

me

but just as you think

they got it

they don’t

This is getting stupid

to watch someone

keep doing

the same

stupid

stuff

over and over

Ugh…Kai Mann © 2014

~Kaiology

#Kaism #Kai2pointO

Real Talk


Why don’t we talk real

talk

to one another

why don’t we say

what we feel

And when can we

get to the place

where the other

is receiving the words

the way

they were meant.

How do we

get there

By talking

and

asking questions

And

waiting for answers

Who’s really listening

I just

want to talk

like that

all of the time

Real

Is it possible


Distance

Is it possible to have those types of discussions; every time, all the time, or maybe some time. Is it possible to learn everyday and have something to talk about in-depth all the time or is it better to not talk as much, go off, and learn and when you’re both full you come back together and give it to each other.

Queen For A Day


Queen

Baby girl you deserve to be more than Queen for a day

You should be treated like royalty each and every day

There’s no need to accept loyalty on occasion

Or be treated like currency is your only persuasion

On a daily you should be honored and treated with respect

And not be hurt by the one who says your heart they’ll protect

You should be considered right after the Lord

And not kept dangling like a tag on a cord

You should be given flowers and candy more than one day of the year

And not treated like a court date stamped failure to appear

The man who deserves your heart will make the team

You’ll know him because he’ll walk like a King

He will love you with his whole heart and not take it lightly

He will make you feel secure by holding on to you tightly

He will try his best not to disappoint or break your heart

He’d rather disappoint himself or tear his own apart

He will consistently treat you like a Queen

And not talk down to you, cheat on you, or anything in between

Or every now and then do something nice to get you off of his back

Or to throw you off his trail so you won’t be on the attack

You can settle for less if that’s what you so choose

But know that it’s you who will ultimately lose

Why not be treated like more than a Queen for a day

By choosing a King who’ll honor and respect you everyday

A Lesson In Friendship~My Sister’s Keeper


I posted last week how I was given the opportunity to speak to a group of young ladies.  Well, during the conversation with them I asked “What is the best thing to do if I have an issue with her (pointing to their coach), talk to her or tell someone else?” Well, a couple of the girls said “tell someone else.” I then asked “Why” and one of the young ladies said “Well, wouldn’t that hurt her feelings?”  I said what do you think would hurt more, me telling her (again pointing to their coach) and saying “There is something that you do that bothers me” or telling someone else, then she hears it from them and of course, have more maybe added to it?”  I could see the light bulbs come on.

I told these young ladies that most of us are pretty much let go into the world without real lessons in how to be a friend so we emulate what we see others do. The awful part about this is that most of us continue to do the same when we become women.

Today, I got to thinking “When you talk behind someone’s back is it that you’re being nasty or that you really don’t want that person to know how you really feel?”  The one thing that I told these young ladies is that when you tell someone how you really feel, you allow them the opportunity to fix the problem. If you don’t tell them, you don’t allow them to fix it. Giving someone the opportunity of knowing how you feel about something and even if they tell you that they can’t fix it, at least now you know that it’s something they can’t help or they don’t want to fix, either way you know the reason and you can move on from there.  But in the grand scheme of things, why wouldn’t someone really try to fix something that you don’t like?  It’s all about intentions. Do you want the problem to go away or not? Are you willing to fix it or not?

When we become our sister’s keepers we begin to treat each other with respect. We won’t seek to hurt each other with our words or actions. Of course, this will not happen overnight but the goal is to consciously give thought to how we should treat one another before we take action.