Know Thyself


know-thyself

Four or Five years ago, I had someone tell me that they thought I was aloof. I agreed with them and added that life had given me a unique skill; the skill to detach from things quickly. I could’ve at that time took what that person said as negative but I knew who I was then and I most definitely know who I am now. Life has taught me plenty of lessons but the first lesson at two years old was that people leave and everyone around will compensate in some way for that loss. The way that you compensate will either propel you into success or hurl you into defeat. The difference is if you look at what happened ‘to’ you instead of what happened ‘for’ you.

What happened for me when I was two years old would define me for the rest of my life. We can’t change what happens to us but we can decide how we will let it work for us. I consider being aloof a gift. I take pride in the fact that I can distance myself from situations and sometimes people if need be. If I had not learned that skill early on I would not have been able to accomplish all that I have thus far. Can you imagine stopping for everything that happens ‘to’ you instead of ‘for’ you? When you stop for things ‘for’ you, you understand there is a lesson in it so you look for the lesson to help propel you further in life. You use ‘it’ instead of letting it use ‘you’.

Imagine listening to every insult someone says about you or waiting for the other shoe to drop? How much can you accomplish if you’re stopping to defend yourself and your actions. I find it hard to lose ground when you keep moving. Remember, it’s hard to hit a moving target.

Often when people get distracted it’s because they are paying attention to things that don’t really matter. When they try to get back into focus they find it hard because there has been damage done. Credibility loss, lack of maturity shown, or some other flaw has been revealed. It’s okay to reveal your flaws but its best once you have overcome them.

It probably sounds cold but in the grand scheme of all things being accomplished you must learn who you are and use it to your advantage. Never let what someone says about you define you in a negative way. You decide how you will be defined and walk in it confidently.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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InkMann Press–Lessons, Blessings, and Weeds


InkMann Press Series–Lessons, Blessings, & Weeds

“Diversions disguised as anything that would hinder you from the goal, purpose, plan, or process occurs when discipline fails to meet commitment.” –Kai Mann

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The blessings in life happen when we position ourselves to receive more. When we start to allow what we learn to seep into our pores we can obtain all that life has to offer. It’s easy to get caught up in everyday life but when we learn to focus our attention on where we are and what we do, we don’t get distracted from the process.

At every stage of the growth process we are faced with situations that test the strength of our commitments. Financial woes, family members in need, a loss of a job, or people in general can disrupt our flow when we do not know our position or how to hold our position. Often when life’s trials and tribulations come we fold into the opposition and forget where we are and what we are doing. We tend to focus on all that is going on around us instead of the changes that we need to make within us. In doing this, we begin to lose our place. Our inability to focus and recognize the opportunity disguised in struggle often hinders our growth. We get stuck and often move backwards not realizing that we can still reach the height in which we seek.

Opposition in perspective reveals our strength and our character. When we operate in a state of awareness we are able to train ourselves to see opposition as opportunities thus decreasing the blow and effect they have upon our lives. It’s in this state that we most times can understand the reason why things happen which helps us to become better.

None of us are immune to tribulations of life However, we all handle them differently. Many of us allow what we go through to stop us, others to propel us, and many to fuel us. When I really think about it, it gives us a new skill set so to speak, thus it is imperative that we understand the lessons we learn in depth so that we can get it right. And the getting it right from the inside out is a blessing within itself. Many of us are distracted with the “when are things going to happen to me” question. But the answer to that question is that the blessings only really come when we take the time to reflect upon our under-developed strength and our developed strengths.

When we’ve done the work from the inside out is when we’re able to be more of a blessing to others. When we don’t take the time to absorb the lessons that we receive in life it’s easier to get distracted by the process which keeps us from moving forward. This brings about a stand still. We all know what happens when we stand still for too long, grass grows under our feet, and weeds grow around us.  It’s the weeds that represent those situations and people on the journey that for one reason or another distract us, keep us stuck, and prevent us from moving forward.

We must train and groom our minds daily to remove the weeds and replace them with healthier perspectives. It’s a part of the process and our responsibility that at every stage and on every level we to take the time to self assess. This level of action only comes with discipline, commitment, and consistency which we are all capable of. The process isn’t a quick one nor is easy, but again, we all can do it. Some lessons take longer than others while the need to reflect may also take just as long. When we try to rush the process we miss the lessons, the blessings, and often the positions that come with it.

When we’re in tight spaces we’re often being challenged to grow. Most of us want it to be over as quickly as possible but there are a certain few of us who understand that the lesson in the situation will help us to reach the next level. Basically in order to pass “Go” we’ve got to stop, reflect, learn, and grow. This process helps us to position ourselves for the next tight space or challenge. These tight spaces or challenges should simply be called ‘opportunities’ because that’s exactly what they are. You decide at which angle you’ll position yourself to see it as a challenge or opportunity and what you’ll do with it. Just remember how you choose to look at the situations in your life will determine if you’ll live in regret or joy.

Whenever we look at our lives as full of opportunities to grow and no longer allow outside stressors, pressures, or ‘weeds’ to distract us we make lasting changes. These lasting changes happen when we are disciplined and committed to the process.  It is our commitment level that determines the height at which we’ll reach. Those whose commitment levels are high not only reach the height at which they seek but they’ll be rewarded for what they have worked so hard to obtain.

Everything in life is a lesson. When the test come, don’t allow people, circumstances, or trials to distract you or take you off your path. Remove the weeds when they begin to grow and move forward as time permits.  Don’t rush the process as everything comes when you are ready, and if it does not, it just means that you still have something else that you must do.

 

 

Talk Tuesday ~Keep Going


When you’re ready it’ll come

seize it

as if you know it

cause you do

 

this opportunity

was designed

just for you

no one can

do it better

 

When it’s time to move

on

distractions

try to get

in the way

don’t let nothing

stop you

be diligent

 

What if I had to go

find the way

what if the way I was

going

‘was’ death

not just for me

so I had to do

something different

what if my path

was not yours

 

No matter what

I’m proud

I’m proud

for all of us

we’re all going

to a different

place

I get to see it

and I’m thrilled

I like to watch

from a distance

so I don’t

distract

or disrupt

the natural flow

still tipping in

when needed

but letting

you

walk like

you walk

within reason

but without restraint

I just want to keep going. ~KaiologyInk #Kaism #Kai2pointO