117I’ve realized how uncomfortable I get when people talk about other people, be it their clothes, their hair, and especially their personal business. I am not sure when it started, or if that feeling of being uncomfortable was always there lying dormant some place. Lately I’ve noticed it more and more. Now, it’s not to say that some things aren’t funny but I think something about laughing at other’s pain, or at their expense is what makes me uncomfortable. Maybe it’s the fact that I realize that if it were me, people would be laughing at me too.

I think we don’t realize each other’s pain. If we did we wouldn’t be laughing right. I see pictures of people at their lowest, the clothes they wear, or the mistakes they’ve made on Facebook and twitter and I scroll passed it fast, so as not to be an accessory or guilty by association.

Everyone doesn’t have what we have. We must first be conscious of that. We have got to understand that some people don’t have jobs or clothes, things have happened in their lives to were loss and lack have permeated their total existence; and we laugh because their clothes are too tight, too small, or too something. We offer these people neither sympathy nor understanding. Maybe it’s because we’ve never been there so it’s a bit hard to understand loss in that particular area. But you have lacked or needed something, haven’t you?

On the other spectrum, to see others expose when some people wear on purpose clothing that are revealing, tacky, or whatever, makes me uncomfortable as well. Not because the person is revealing too much of their assets or what have you, but the person who calls it into attention make me uncomfortable because I’m not sure if they still don’t see the pain of that person.

We go into excessive situations when we are indeed in lack, no father in the home, mother not there to teach us how to be a lady, or whatever the case may be. We expose them without offering them something in exchange; something positive to their negative. I wonder if it would be okay when I see some young girl with her shorts up her spine and a low cut shirt to say “You have the most amazing eyes” if she would focus more on them the next time she decided what to wear.

Well, at least if we decide to say nothing, maybe we should say nothing on Facebook or twitter too. I don’t know, I haven’t tried it but I think I will, next time.



Why is what Dwayne Wade wearing News?

dwyane-wade-capriUsually I don’t comment on what other people are doing out in the world because I have my own issues to deal with but I can’t help but talk about Dwyane Wade. Why is what Dwyane Wade wearing, news?

It’s one thing to see him on TMZ because that’s what they do but when I see him on my local news station there’s a problem. There are so many other newsworthy stories going on in and around the city of Detroit. Is what Dwyane Wade wearing really an option? Really?

What kills me is that we tell people all day long to be themselves and when they do we bash them for doing it. First of all, what Dwayne Wade is wearing is called High Fashion. High Fashion isn’t for everyone and if it ain’t for you it’s not for you, and really, it’s not worth a comment. I applaud him for saying I’m man enough to wear anything I want to wear because I buy my clothes. I am not attracted to Dwyane Wade but I say it’s HAUTE when anyone is bold enough to wear what they want to wear and most of all courageous.

In one breathe we’ll say Clothes don’t make the man but the man makes the clothes and as soon as a man wears something we deem that is not manly enough we show our true colors. So, what we are saying is that any man that wears their pants above the ankle is gay? No, we are not that shallow to define someone’s sexuality by what they wear. It is more than what a person wears that says who they are. We are so much more than what we wear why reduce people down to clothing.

Once again, society is trying to dictate (bully) people into wearing what society feels others should wear because society is uncomfortable with it.  The majority isn’t always right. And when you find yourself on the side of the majority most often it’s oppressing someone else.