Four or Five years ago, I had someone tell me that they thought I was aloof. I agreed with them and added that life had given me a unique skill; the skill to detach from things quickly. I could’ve at that time took what that person said as negative but I knew who I was then and I most definitely know who I am now. Life has taught me plenty of lessons but the first lesson at two years old was that people leave and everyone around will compensate in some way for that loss. The way that you compensate will either propel you into success or hurl you into defeat. The difference is if you look at what happened ‘to’ you instead of what happened ‘for’ you.
What happened for me when I was two years old would define me for the rest of my life. We can’t change what happens to us but we can decide how we will let it work for us. I consider being aloof a gift. I take pride in the fact that I can distance myself from situations and sometimes people if need be. If I had not learned that skill early on I would not have been able to accomplish all that I have thus far. Can you imagine stopping for everything that happens ‘to’ you instead of ‘for’ you? When you stop for things ‘for’ you, you understand there is a lesson in it so you look for the lesson to help propel you further in life. You use ‘it’ instead of letting it use ‘you’.
Imagine listening to every insult someone says about you or waiting for the other shoe to drop? How much can you accomplish if you’re stopping to defend yourself and your actions. I find it hard to lose ground when you keep moving. Remember, it’s hard to hit a moving target.
Often when people get distracted it’s because they are paying attention to things that don’t really matter. When they try to get back into focus they find it hard because there has been damage done. Credibility loss, lack of maturity shown, or some other flaw has been revealed. It’s okay to reveal your flaws but its best once you have overcome them.
It probably sounds cold but in the grand scheme of all things being accomplished you must learn who you are and use it to your advantage. Never let what someone says about you define you in a negative way. You decide how you will be defined and walk in it confidently.